Have you tried using The Law of Attraction and found it got you nothing? Or even worse, it sometimes brings you what you don't want? 
This happens to so many people, including myself on many occasions.

If we take a look at the process, the basic rules of the Law of Attraction are:
Ask
Believe
Receive

These are very simple rules, and in fact very clear rules. So why does it not work for everyone?

If we go back to the very basics of how the Law of Attraction works, the world around us vibrates. Everything within our world vibrates, we vibrate, items vibrate. 
Everything is created from energy.

So with the basic rules outlined above, we ask for what we want, putting it out there into the universe. This creates a vibration within us that matches whatever it is that we are asking for. Vibrations are attracted to each other (think tuning forks!), so you would attract what you are asking for to you.

Sounds very very simple. And it is simple..... but it's not always easy when you first try.

First you have to ask in a certain way. If you say for example 'I want a new car', the universe hears that you want a new car, this means you will keep wanting a new car. There are a few reasons for this.
1. you have to believe you already have the car to attract it. So if you are saying you want a new car then you are not believing you have it.
2. Another thing that can happen is you want a new car, the universe hears that you want a new car but sees that there are blocks or issues you need to get out of the way first. These could be not believing you are worthy of the new car for example, so therefore not being open to receiving the new car. This is the same as not believing you will attract the new car.
This is when things can appear to get worse and can get messy. This is the universe trying to draw your attention to what you need to change in order to build your belief.
So the universe shows you what beliefs you need to change first. It does this so that you can clear this belief and create a new belief like 'I am very worthy of everything good'. 

So you have to see yourself in the car and give thanks and gratitude for the car, as if you already own it. As if it is already yours.

I AM...... the 2 most powerful words in our vocabulary.

Being in this high vibrational state, means you aren't thinking about lack, you don't feel guilt, worry, unworthiness, anger, disappointment and/or depression, which are all low vibrations.
It means you are feeling love, gratitude, joy, peace. If you are in this state then you don't have any issues you need to clear. The universe has heard your order and is working on it. The same way as if you ordered off the internet. You order it and then get on with other things.

So how do we get into this high vibration? 
Again simple (but not always easy)
We do things that make us happy. We fill ourselves up. 
When I manifested my house I didn't think too much about it. I put out my request and then most days I put on my favourite music (one that always lifts me and helps me feel incredibly grateful for the beauty around me) and I visualised my dream house. I imagined walking through each room. How it would look, how it would feel to live there (feelings are incredibly important to this process). 
I did this for 3-5mins most days. I also believed in my heart that I would get a house like the one I was visualising (or an even better one), I put no pressure on time frames. I just visualised and listened to my music which helped me to hit that high vibrational state. I also started looking at houses online, visited a few, painted our house so it was ready to go onto the market, so I took some action 
(hint* you will never win the lottery if you don't buy a lottery ticket!)
This is also a way of making space to receive.
The important thing was I didn't get impatient, I didn't start thinking this house is never going to show up. The only time I thought about it was when I was visualising or taking action.

Eventually our dream house came onto the market, we visited it, got an estate agent to set up things to sell our house, and we had sold ours (off market) and bought our new house within a week.

This is seriously how easy it can be!!  Ask in the right way, act as if it is already yours, and keep any thoughts of what you are asking for positive. If you can't, then don't think about it at all and do happy things!

So yes, The Law of Attraction does work!! All you need is to understand more about how the universe operates to work with it properly.

The video below has the music on it that I listened to whilst visualising. It helped that my 3yr old (at the time) also loved to watch this so it was on a lot x

I woke up this morning feeling strangely very well, especially considering I was back at the osteopath yesterday. I do have pain, however, I feel ok with it.

I have a feeling of a new beginning today and curious if this is a personal thing or a global thing? 

Anyway, I felt compelled to write a list of things I want to change in my life, 
kind of an 'enough is enough' sort of thing.

The list was much larger than I thought it was going to be, lots of what came up were things that I have acknowledged before but still haven't resolved. On the plus side there were things that weren't on the list that used to be.

Progress! One step at a time!

So a few things that came up for me were:
-Worrying about money
-being in pain
-feeling tired
-worrying what people think of me
-needing approval
-feeling stuck
-having a messy house (we are renovating just now - having said that I'm still a bit of a hoarder)

Now a few of these I am reading and I know they are not feeling as strong as they used to, but they are still there.

Changing your mindset is not going to happen over night, but I do believe if we can focus on the positive, it leaves less space for the negative.

Although these statements may seem very negative, its important to acknowledge them, then change them into a positive statement. If you follow the laws of the universe, you will know that it cannot distinguish between want and don't want. So we have to declare what we do want.

It's also good to understand that we don't need to be perfect, at least not perfect in the sense that we put too much pressure on ourselves to be a certain way, or beat ourselves up over silly 'flaws' that really don't matter. Only change the things that feel right to you, the things that you feel are holding you back.

My new list of personal priorities are:

I am printing this list out and popping it onto my board so I see it every day as a reminder.
What are you going to do today? I feel really strong after writing this list, it feels perfect to me. You will have your own issues to work through and come up with. This feels like a very positive step for me.
Have a fantastic friday!

I found out something totally and utterly fascinating this morning (well fascinating to me anyway!), and maybe you will find it interesting too.

It's the Psoas Muscle (pronounced so-as) in our bodies, also known as the 
'Muscle of the Soul'.
These are the large core muscles that run from our either side of our spine, around and through the pelvis to the front of our thighs, and.......... it is particularly sensitive to our emotions.

You know how sometimes when we are upset, or stressed, we automatically want to go into the foetal position? This is because these muscles contract under stress, so pull us into this position which is why we find comfort from doing this.

You know how when you are not good with heights and you take a look over a cliff side, you feel this wrench in your gut? That is your Psoas muscles contracting under stress.

Or when we get that sinking feeling that something is not right? Again we feel it in our gut, that is the Psoas muscle, 

The Muscle of the Soul.

I have very personal reasons for finding this incredibly interesting and exciting. Ever since my last pregnancy (7yrs ago) I have had a problem with my pelvis and hips. During this pregnancy I had SPD, which basically means my pubic bone split. Generally it is just that the ligaments become really loose and there is movement within the pelvis that causes pain. Normally once the baby is born and hormones return to normal all settles and the pain goes away.

Sadly for me 7 years later I still have it. I have learned to manage the pain through knowing my physical limits. I can't do sports, I can't walk too far, I have a weak back. So I have habitually learned to automatically protect my hips and pelvis this whole time. 


7 years!!

I started to see an osteopath last week, as I really have decided enough is enough. I'd tried the Dr's but they just kept saying nothing was wrong. By this stage I had also worked out that stress seemed to trigger flare ups as well.

Well yes, I'm sure you have guessed it by now but the Osteopath said my Psoas Muscle is in severe contraction. More so on the right side, so this also means my pelvis is twisted too.

I am finding the treatment it's self not too bad pain wise, but I am in a lot of pain for a few days afterwards. In fact as I write this I am 4 days since my last treatment and I am still in pain from it. I am due to go back in 2 days.

This information, however, shows me I am on the right track. It gives me the strength to carry on with the treatment.

Because I know it will work!

It all makes so much sense to me and ties in with what my Osteopath has said, and my friend who did KCR on me said too.

So for me I will continue with the treatment and the exercises I am given. But on going, I want to keep this muscle healthy. Less stress is a major factor, yoga, pilates, dance etc are all supposed to be very good for helping too.

There is a lot of information online about this as well as books on amazon. I know that I will be looking into it further x


***This is of course all just my opinion from information I have collected, so please do your own research into this subject

How many times have you felt totally stuck, like you are living a life that isn't true to you?

Signs of this can include, depression, anxiety, frustration!!

I now I have felt like this many many times, and then guilt kicks in and I feel I should just be grateful for what I have. 
I am incredibly grateful for what I have, but to feel fulfilled we usually need to grow, and continue to grow. 

But how can we grow when we don't even know ourselves what we actually want?

This is an area I have really struggled with myself. I have spent pretty much a year exploring what I want and where I want to be. I have also realised that this changes.......... often.

Over the last year I have tested many different hats, tried out different things that I think I may like.
I have felt the frustration of trying to find this 1 amazing thing that will be my purpose for the rest of my life so I can live the life of my dreams. Frustrated because I didn't know what my dream life even was! How can I possibly get to where I want to be when even I don't know where that is!

One thing that has been an incredible help for me gaining clarity is......

Journalling!!

Try it. 

See how it works for you!

I can only say that I have had amazing realisations, break throughs and understandings of myself through journalling. It has helped me in incredible ways.

So go buy yourself a beautiful journal to write in.
Pour your heart and soul into it, open yourself up.

Don't edit your thoughts, just get them down on paper (electronic journalling doesn't work..... it most definitely has to be written by hand) don't ask me why as I don't know but I have tried both.

Did anyone else here go into a panic when they were asked this? I'm now 40 and it still sends me into a state on anxiety when I feel I have to decide what I want to do. 

In fact I end up doing nothing because I love so many completely different things! If I choose one path, then I feel all other paths are closed to me forever! (It really does feel like that in my head!)

My work career so far has been so diverse it's incredible.
At school I wanted to be a vet, then because I was good at (and loved) maths and physics I decided to be an engineer, the opportunity to take part in an apprenticeship with a huge petrochemical company meant I left school a year early to train to be an electrician, 4 years later I was kept on at the company but I decided to work in the research department running tests on mini plants as an operator, then again I shifted position and retrained as an instrument technician. Whilst in this job I studied part-time BEng Electrical Engineering. So already I had  retrained 4 times! 
Yes its true. I'm a course-aholic!
I absolutely LOVE learning new skills.

Eventually, however, there were a large number of redundancies with the company. HUGE number. I was lucky and wasn't chosen to leave, however, the fact that I very quickly realised we were all just numbers didn't sit well with me. I didn't want anyone having that sort of control over my life. I didn't want to worry that if I lost my job I could be left unable to pay a mortgage. So I volunteered to take redundancy. It wasn't something I thought about for a long time, the idea came to me and 2 days later, after discussing with my husband, I spoke to my manager. It was time for me to move on.
I fell pregnant a few months later, whilst still working (had a year to wait before I actually left my job) I finished my degree, but knew I would be unlikely to ever actually use it. 

Initially, whilst pregnant, I thought I could do child minding, since I was going to have my own child anyway, but 1st baby came along and nope, I was way out my depth here, no way could I have looked after other kids too. And so my next learning opportunity came along, motherhood!! And then being a parent to 2 beautiful daughters when number 2 child was born. So so much to learn!!!

I finally started to look back into owning and running my own business again. Dabbled in a few things, selling baby items on ebay, items I was bulk buying at discount from various companies, I considered maths tuition, book keeping, eventually started working with a health food multi level marketing company. I loved this!!!! I loved the supportive culture and the learning, the health products, which I still use today, but I only lasted a couple of years before burning out. It was during this time I was told about the Law Of Attraction, I was fascinated, I was learning about something that really pulled me in and I read several books on it. When I hit burnout with this company, I pretty much stopped everything: although I still had that understanding of the Law Of Attraction.
Then I had baby number 3, my beautiful baby boy x

My next business was one I stuck with and currently still do. Tans & Lashes. Spray tanning and eyelash extensions. This quickly grew to me learning to be a teacher, then I began writing my own training courses, developing my own lash brand, distribution. As much as I have worked within this industry now for almost 6years, it has changed focus several times, I have learnt many different skills, in very different areas.

Recently I have cut this business back to clients and education only and am also pursuing my new passion. I've spent the last year getting heavily into Law Of Attraction, Self Healing, Crystals, various Universal Laws, tuning into and trusting my intuition, improving my self worth. I'm pretty sure this something that will keep me going for a very long time as there are so many things I'm passionate about here. 
For now I am listening to my body and just following what feels right to me. 
The exciting thing about having so many interests and not staying with one thing is that what I learn in one subject may help me to improve things within another subject. The overlaps can be where the magic happens! And.... I get to figure out what I love doing! (and what I don't so much like doing)

Are you like me? Have you been struggling to find your one purpose in this world? I always believe our purpose is ultimately to be happy. So whatever makes you happy is the way to go. 

"Only make choices that are loving and kind to you" 
- Christie Marie Sheldon

Watch the video below, it may help you.
Jen x

Oooohhh this has been something I have been putting off for such a long long time, so many fears, so many worries. 

Will people still like me? 
Will people think I'm having a midlife crisis? 
Will people think I'm weird? 
Will people be talking about me at the school gate?
Will people think I've gone to the dark side?

Haha truth is most people probably couldn't care less or even notice! And they won't treat me any differently to how they do now. They may be confused as to why I never mentioned it before but I'm still me, with a few new 'hobbies'!

Crystals and angels, meditating and visualising, self development and tuning into my intuition. I still love a glass or 2 (or 3 or 4) of gin and tonic, watching funny films, wearing jeans and trainers, spending time with my family & friends, speaking to clients, applying lash extensions, teaching. 
I'm still me! 
The only things I'm giving up, or at least trying to, are dramas, negativity, people pleasing, listening to that voice in my head that puts me down and a bigggie......... procrastinating!! 

Fear can stop us in our tracks, and unless we follow our true desires and peel away the barriers we put up to protect ourselves we can stay stuck forever! Think about that for a minute........ stuck forever, spending the rest of our lives wishing we had followed our heart rather than worry what other people think of us. Spending our lives the way we think others want us too, rather than how we really want to.

I have spent a long time lost and stuck, paralysed, unable to move forward because of fear. Unable to see clearly which direction I should go in. 
Today, I realised, I don't need to go in any direction, I just need to be true to me.. 

Embrace the things I love, they are all part of me and I don't need to choose one over the other. 
Today I release needing to know all the answers, needing to control things, and I make space for all I desire to come into my life.

I love & approve of myself, unconditionally.

Jen x
p.s. welcome to my new blog!