It's January here and a lot of us are still in the new year resolutions stage, and quite possibly losing a bit of momentum.
New year resolutions can be a variety of things from eat healthier, do more exercise, spend more time with family, get a new job, create inner peace...... but unless we put down some specific tasks we can do to achieve this, they just aren't going to happen! Like every other year you start off with enthusiasm and then it slows down.
So this year a few of my resolutions are to eat healthier, to write a book and play in a badminton competition and win. All very good resolutions indeed, but unless I'm specific I will always find something else to do, I need to find action steps that I can do daily/weekly/monthly that will take me towards that goal. These steps may change slightly until I get there, for example a non- negotiable action step for writing my book could be to write 1000 words a day, but once I've written it all it would change to editing, then to design work, then publishing.
For each resolution see how you feel about it. Is it really something you want to do or something you think you should do? You are unlikely to stick to 'should do's', or if you do they are going to be extremely hard work. Pick the ones that really excite you, the one you feel really strongly about, even if you aren't sure they are achievable and then look at what action steps you can take now that will move you towards your goal. It is really important that these steps are things you like to do, having to force yoyrself day after day to do something you dont want to do is doing you no good at all.
Book in a time to review these action steps monthly as they may need to change to keep you moving forwards.
I like doing something for 30 days, so monthly is perfect for me.
Now we have our action steps, we now need to do them. I prefer daily ones because if I take a day or 2 off I tend to get lazy and stop, this is where some form of accountability can be good while you build the habit. This could be your partner, or a work colleague. Perhaps you and someone you work with are both looking to eat healthier, you can hold each other accountable to have a healthy lunch each day. Or maybe you are looking for another job, perhaps your partner can hold you accountable to submitting 2 resumes a week. Accountability is a huge thing and really powerful. At the moment in my facebook group we have a group of us drinking 2 litres of water a day, I would have probably given up by now if others weren't doing it with me.
It will still take a certain amount of dicipline but it is so much easier.
Write your daily tasks down and pop your list on your fridge or bathroom mirror, anywhere you will see it regularly. If you have a packed day and won't fit it in, get up an hour earlier - make it non-negotiable.
Non-negotiable means absolutely no excuses.
Get tasks done first thing in the morning - eat that frog! For example I don't eat any rubbish food unless I've already had a healthy breakfast, this is because if i have a healthy breakfast I'm not as hungry so don't feel the need to eat rubbish, but I'm also still not denying myself of things I like (I just don't want it as much) and my non-negotiable is that I have a healthy breakfast.
So what are your non- negotiables for this month?
Mine at the moment are
- drink 2 litres of water a day
- have a healthy breakfast
- write a blog a day
- client sessions
- 10mins minimum meditation
I'm now adding in
- write for 30-60mins on a course or a book
- 30 - 60mins to myself to do something relaxing without interuption....yes one of my non-negotiables is to make time for doing something relaxing, otherwise I would just burnout - this is very important and balance is very much required.
Mini rewards work well too for keeping you going, if its weight loss then perhaps a spa treatment as a reward would be nice when you hgit a specific milestone.
Let me know how you get on!